Welcome to my page! My name is Eva and I'm a certified life coach. Here you can find my thoughts about how everyday life and coaching meet.
In May we focused on relationships. If you feel something is happening with you repeatedly in your relationships it has a reason. In my private Facebook group You see videos, activities which can support you to re-connect to yourself and your loved ones. You can freely ask question, share thoughts on the topic and of course connect others.
June’s topic will be mental health and wellbeing.
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For example, I want to be happier. I want to earn more money/be rich. I want to lose weight. Say exactly what do you want to achieve? Give as many details as you can!
What is happiness means to me? On a scale from 1-10 where one ‘unhappiness’ and the tenth is ‘happiest’ state, I can imagine where am I now? What can I do to move up one level on this scale in the next month? What can I do to move up two levels? How much money do I earn now? How much could I make? How likely is it to happen? And so on.
For example, I want to lose weight!
What is my current weight? How much do I want to drop off? Realistically, what is the ideal weekly / monthly weight loss according to my health? What dietary changes can I incorporate into my life? What kind of movement can I incorporate into my life?
Staying with the example of the previous weight loss, if we don’t decide for ourselves that we want to lose a few pounds, but because we want to meet someone’s expectations. These unspoken thoughts, often hidden from us, form mental blocks. It is important to choose a goal that is truly appealing to us and not coming from an external source.
Also, staying at weight loss, it’s not realistic to expect from ourselves to drop 20 kilos in 3 months to have the perfect beach body for the summer. On the one hand, it is unhealthy and, in many cases, does not even prove to be permanent.
For example, I want to learn Japanese. Once I have chosen where I will study, I can assign dates to my progress. It will motivate me to stick to my schedule. If I might move forward faster, it’s worth rewarding myself.
If something doesn’t work out the way I originally planned because the activity takes more time, or I don’t feel so motivated about my goal, it’s worth redesigning and not throwing away the whole plan.
In Hungary, where I’m originally from, we celebrate Christmas on the 24th of December. That is why I chose this day to finish my countdown today with you!
We walked together in these last few weeks and got ready to arrive and open up for this festive period. These two years were difficult and challenging for many, and I hope you will find peace, magic and love in yourself and your home!
The 4th step I brought to you today is: Be present!
According to a podcast I heard recently on Spotify: the most important moment in our lives is not on social media, not recorded because these are inside of us. Our emotions, thoughts, the warmth in our hearts.
So, before you get up the following day, maybe your children are around you. Just stay in bed together for another half an hour, play or talk or sing or just laugh. During the day, recognise small happy moments: the smell of your morning tea or coffee, the taste of the Christmas dinner, a lovely afternoon walk with the dog, a soft touch of your clothes. Try to gather as much information as you can and hold them in your mind.
As a mum, I was always in a rush; I baked and cooked and collected the Christmas gift by myself and went crazy during multitasking. I was exhausted when I finally collapsed on the couch on Christmas Eve, and I didn’t enjoy it at all. Because I felt like an empty shell, and as my coaching mentor said to me, “you can’t share from an empty bowl’. And then my husband stopped me and said Christmas is not about this, and together we created new traditions which make both of us happy, calm and fulfilled.
So these steps I shared in these few weeks are not cut in stone; I wrote them as a starting point.
Questions:
Meeting online
However, living in a digital world has a few negative impacts on our lives that fact we can call, message each other any time is a positive one. I work with my clients online; this gives me plenty of experience. It is hard to read emotions because you just see the face or the upper body and cannot see the body posture, hand gestures. It is much harder for those like me whose vision is not perfect.
If you feel lonely, anxious, depressed – I know it is hard, sometimes extremely – but reach out. One step at a time but try to connect with someone every day.
Play online
Doing quiz nights is something the whole family could play together when far away from each other. Or playing online together (seek advice from the younger generation, they can recommend plenty of games).
Singing together
Music is a very powerful, emotionally engaging thing. Singing together connects us, but don’t feel pressured. If you like you can play an instrument, clap your hands or just be present. Engage as much as you wish!
Stay active
Grab a thermos with a nice, flavoured tea or hot chocolate and go for a walk with your friend in person or online. You can share pictures with each other about what can you see, where are you
Staying with the activity, you can attend an online yoga class or a meditation because being together is not just about talking. It is about sharing moments.
I could continue this line, but I’d like to say with these tips: allocate time for these online or personal meetings. Sharing our ups and downs and understanding that we’re not alone with our feelings is powerful. Many of us are dealing with similar challenges. We don’t need to solve everyone’s problems; just listen carefully, be present and show support and understanding. This is the biggest gift we can give to each other.
My name is Eva, I’m a professional coach. I help my clients:
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If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to email me at eva.moricz@5petals.coach or call me on 0746 907 5866.
Time is running very fast, and it is Sunday again, and here I am with the second step to get ready for Christmas. Last week, we talked about slowing down a little bit and releasing stress and anxiety.
The second step is: Wrap up this year! Look back and remember those happy moments, achievements you’ve done, challenges you had and how you got over them, who helped, supported you.
For this nostalgic journey, I brought you a gift; maybe you already know it: The Year Compass.
“YearCompass is a free booklet that helps you reflect on the year and plan the next one. With a set of carefully selected questions and exercises, YearCompass helps you uncover your patterns and design the ideal year for yourself.”
Give yourself a few calm hours and look back on 2021. Open your calendar to remember the most important dates, have a look at your pictures on your phone and search for the happiest moments. Listen to your favourite songs from this year. When you bring back a memory, remember all the little details (sounds, smells, taste, touch, vision, feeling).
If you had challenging times this year, give kindness to yourself!
Forgive others and for yourself!
Finally, plan your next year because “A goal without a plan is just a wish” (Exuperie).
I will come with the 3rd step next week ♥
Christmas is coming, only 4 weeks from now. From previous experience, I know how frustrating realising on Christmas Eve you are there physically, but your soul is still on a meeting, or in the line at the supermarket etc.
I’d like to help you get ready for Christmas, Yule, Hanuka, or anything you wish to celebrate in the next few weeks.
If you feel distressed, it is absolutely fine! These last two years were hard for many of us!
Your feelings are VALID, REAL and MATTER! IT IS NORMAL NOT TO BE OK ALL THE TIME!
The first step is to slow down. Give some time for yourself and look back to your year and celebrate your achievements. When you go to your workplace, try a new route, or walk a few stops in the fresh air on your way home. Release the stress. Book a massage, yoga class or listen to meditation online.
Questions you can ask from yourself:
How are you?
What feelings do you have?
What are the things you’re waiting for this Christmas?
What is the thing you’d like to avoid this Christmas?
What will you gift for yourself?
What are the things not serving you anymore?
What 5 things can you do to relax more and slow down?
I can continue with much more, but these are the ‘goals’ clients said to out what they’d like to achieve or change. Exupery’s quote expresses perfectly why we need to set up goals properly.
In the first session, we focus on this topic. What is your dream goal, and how to build a coaching goal from it? Why is it necessary? By creating SMART goals after your coaching programme, you will solve this kind of problem in your life. Stuck in a life situation could be stressful and take a lot of energy from us. Finding our way out from it gives us the power and self-confidence to move forward and improve other areas in our lives.
What is happiness means to you? What was the last time you felt happy? On a scale from 1-10, where are you now? For example, you think you’re on 5. How is it feels? What is your goal? Your goal is to be on 8. Think about it! What is the difference? What can you do to make it 6/7/8?
How much do you earn now? Why do you want to make more? How much more money do you need? Is it possible to get a raise in your current position somehow? If yes, how? If not, what else could you do to get more money?
Can you do it now? No, because of the pandemic, and I don’t have enough money. Is it likely you can change these components to achieve your goal? No, I can’t change how the pandemic goes. Also, I lost my job. I need to find a new one, and it is October now. So, what do you think? Is this goal achievable this year? No, I should think about it and plan to go there maybe next year.
In another situation, the client realises that studying to be a lawyer is not attractive because it wasn’t her choice, but her parents. And this is the reason she keeps procrastinating all the time and not putting effort into her studies.
Realistic: ‘I want more me time.’ Draw a circle and think about your tasks: family duties, groceries shopping, working, friend, sleep, me time etc. White down these tasks. How many hours a day do you do these during the week? How many per cent do you do these in a week? Draw in the circle. How can you change this? If you find this challenging, try a productive timer app where you can measure how many hours you spend on each task for a week or two.Time-bound: ‘I want another job.’
Every goal needs a time-bound to know when you will achieve your goal. It helps you to keep your focus. Also, important if this is too far, you create smaller steps, milestones for guidance. When would you like to achieve your goal? How would you like to find another job? When would you like to start in your new job? Choose a date and time that feels realistic and achievable to you and write it down!
Eva Moricz Coaching 