• I want to be happier.
• I want to earn more.
• I want to visit Japan.
• I want more time for myself.
• I want to be less stressed.
• I want to communicate better with my partner.
• I want to develop spiritually.

I can continue with much more, but these are the ‘goals’ clients said to out what they’d like to achieve or change. Exupery’s quote expresses perfectly why we need to set up goals properly.

In the first session, we focus on this topic. What is your dream goal, and how to build a coaching goal from it? Why is it necessary? By creating SMART goals after your coaching programme, you will solve this kind of problem in your life. Stuck in a life situation could be stressful and take a lot of energy from us. Finding our way out from it gives us the power and self-confidence to move forward and improve other areas in our lives.  

What is SMART goal? I will show you examples.

Specific: ‘I want to be happier.’

What is happiness means to you? What was the last time you felt happy? On a scale from 1-10, where are you now? For example, you think you’re on 5. How is it feels? What is your goal? Your goal is to be on 8. Think about it! What is the difference? What can you do to make it 6/7/8?

Measurable: ‘I want to earn more money.’

How much do you earn now? Why do you want to make more? How much more money do you need? Is it possible to get a raise in your current position somehow? If yes, how? If not, what else could you do to get more money?

Achievable sometimes Attractive: ‘I want to visit Japan this year.’

Can you do it now? No, because of the pandemic, and I don’t have enough money. Is it likely you can change these components to achieve your goal? No, I can’t change how the pandemic goes. Also, I lost my job. I need to find a new one, and it is October now. So, what do you think? Is this goal achievable this year? No, I should think about it and plan to go there maybe next year.

In another situation, the client realises that studying to be a lawyer is not attractive because it wasn’t her choice, but her parents. And this is the reason she keeps procrastinating all the time and not putting effort into her studies.

Realistic: ‘I want more me time.’ 

Draw a circle and think about your tasks: family duties, groceries shopping, working, friend, sleep, me time etc. White down these tasks. How many hours a day do you do these during the week? How many per cent do you do these in a week? Draw in the circle. How can you change this? If you find this challenging, try a productive timer app where you can measure how many hours you spend on each task for a week or two.Time-bound: ‘I want another job.’

Every goal needs a time-bound to know when you will achieve your goal. It helps you to keep your focus. Also, important if this is too far, you create smaller steps, milestones for guidance. When would you like to achieve your goal? How would you like to find another job? When would you like to start in your new job? Choose a date and time that feels realistic and achievable to you and write it down!

Think about it, and if you feel this is helpful to you, take some notes for yourself and answer the questions. Create milestones, step by step plans for yourself. If you feel you need more help or have any qquestion,sdon’t hesitate to message me, and I am more than happy to help!

Before the pandemic, I was a remedial and sports massage therapist. My purpose was to help others to feel better in their body and reconnect themselves. But in the meantime, I searched for a tool that could help me be a better therapist. And I find life coaching, which is precisely the method I was searching for because, with this, I can support my clients to transform their lives with small steps. And the whole journey started with me.

Why? Because I started coaching myself too. I learned how to develop new habits and live healthier lives. I am 38 years old now and have three children. Like many parents, I always put myself back, and over the years, I became overweight and not very active however the massages made me much stronger.

Last year during the first lockdown, like many of us, I felt overwhelmed, depressed. I realised that I need to adapt to this new situation quickly. I started to be more physically active. I did home workouts 2-3 times a week from March 2020. Later, I added daily stepping to my routine, and first time in my life, I signed up for the One Million Steps Challenge for Diabetes UK and completed it between 1^st of July 2020 – 30^th of September 2020. This was my first big achievement, and I was so proud of myself. It helped me keep going, because I must admit that I became more active, but my weight stayed the same which was very disappointing.

I tried (but not really) to focus on what am I eating and asked for help from the GP, who referred me to the Weight Management Team. Unfortunately, I had to wait for their letter for almost a year.

But I believed in coaching and started to believe in myself, too, so from January 2021, I started a new diet. And finally, IT WORKED, IT IS STILL WORKING! I lost more than 30 lbs (14 kg)!

Was it challenging?

Yes, it was.

Was it sometimes hard?

Yes, it was.

Was it doable?

Definitely!

How did I do it?

With small steps, with COACHING?

If you feel lost, you think you tried everything, and nothing works for you, believe I know how you feel. I was there! But, if you also think you want to give it a try, you want to develop new habits and find a doable programme for you, contact me and let me help you! I BELIEVE IN YOU! THIS IS NOT JUST A PHRASE: YOU CAN DO IT! 

Love: Eva